To stay a virgin or naw?

Pros and cons to remaining a virgin until married. 

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"When you become 40 and still a virgin, you'll be issued a medal from the government (I think my grandfather has one from Franklin Roosevelt...) and they will make a movie out of your life."

Virgin. Just let that sink in for a minute.

What's wrong with remaining a virgin? It's your life, it's your choice. You shouldn't have to feel pressured to do something you're not comfortable with. 

What about if you're not a virgin and you have sex on the regular? Again, it's your choice, do as you please. Or who you please, pun intended. 

So if you're curious to know what's alright about remaining a virgin until you're married and what's alright with just getting it done and over with before marriage, there's a few facts here you need to know. 

From the pro virgin side:

1. You're safe from STD's.

2. You're safe from becoming pregnant or getting someone pregnant.

3. You don't have to feel ashamed of who you've done the nasty with because, guess what, you didn't have sex!

From the "just do it" side:

1. You're experienced! No awkward encounters in bed or having to confess being a virgin since you're not one!

2. People are more desirable of non virgins, depends on the person however. 

3. You'll have a better idea of what your partner is like in bed before putting a ring on it. 

Let's go further into detail on these points. 

Now there's many reasons behind a person's choice to remain a virgin. It could be because of their religious beliefs or maybe they have no self confidence and are just uncomfortable. Trust plays a pretty big role as well, some people just don't have any trust in others. It's said, according to Business Insider, that "the longer you wait to have sex, the less likely you are to actually do it."

There's plenty of consequences that come with having sex. For example, you could get STD's in which there are over 65 million Americans that have an STD that can't be cured. And not only that but each year, there's 20 million cases added to that, in which the infected people range from age 15 to 24. It's true! Read about all the STD facts here. 

Pregnancy is another consequence that comes along with having sex. According to The Shriver Report, about 50% of all pregnancies in the U.S. are unintended. That's around 3 million women in America that experience accidental pregnancy. Don't want to accidentally make a baby? Simple, either use protection, or don't have sex. But even with using a condom for protection, there's a 2% chance it'll lead to failure. There's different reasons that lead to unplanned pregnancies and here's an article that could help you understand why. 

As opposed to the idea of staying a virgin until marriage, some people actually regret saving it until their wedding night. Too many high expectations are built up when you're saving it until after you say your vows. Some people experienced it as not being what they expected it to be like, not as fun, not as enjoyable. Maybe even both partners couldn't figure out what they were doing in bed and it just ended up being an awkward mess. A brave soul decided to confess her personal story of what she went through after losing her virginity on her wedding night. Read about it here to get a true perspective of this topic. 

But in the end, everything you do in life comes with consequences. Whether you have sex or not, there's going to be consequences. Remain a virgin and you're looked at as a prude or undesirable or it's a turn off to some people. Or you can be confident in yourself as a virgin and be looked as someone with a good head on their shoulders, someone who respects themselves and doesn't settle for less than you deserve. For the non virgins, you're viewed as dirty or someone who "gets around" or someone who's insecure and needs to have sex to feel wanted or liked. Or you can be a non virgin that's looked at as someone who has put themselves out there for someone else because they felt loved or is in love or has been married to the same person for several years. No matter what the situation is, there's going to be view points and actual facts that go with those choices, good or bad or even both. 

At the end of the day, it's your body, your choice, your life and your desire to do as you please. Don't feel pressured to give up something that you're not ready to. Don't feel guilty for doing something you did do. Everything you do is followed by some kind of reaction or feeling in the end. Just be watchful of yourself and do what you want, not what society makes you think you do want or should be doing. Check out this video on virginity and sexual confidence if you'd like to hear more advice. 

Well that got a little mushy at the end there, but I hope you see what I'm trying to say. There's a lot of facts on both sides of the situation, and from these facts, they're there to help you figure out what's the best decision for yourself. 

Just be who you are and be comfortable with yourself and your decisions and you're golden!